Parenting is much harder than I ever imagined. I keep thinking I should be better at this, at managing the role of mother on top of everything I was before. I may have the sleep thing down, but there are sooooo many other areas I feel need improvement. And then, every once in a while, this magical moment happens where everything goes according to plan. I feel my red cape blowing in the breeze. Tonight was one of those nights. So I’m patting myself on the back and hoping I’ll remember this day the next time my self doubt rears its ugly head.
“I’m fine, I can handle it”, is something I hear more and more from moms after they tell me how tired they are because their little one isn’t sleeping well. My thoughts are always, “Of course you can handle it, you’re a supermom! But do you have to?” There are two kinds of supermoms: those who look like your typical superhero, with spotless outfits and a smile that says, “bring it on world, I’ve got this”, and those who look like they’ve just come out of an epic battle. Our clothes are stained, hair’s a mess and our faces show every tantrum we’ve dealt with, and every minute of sleep we’ve missed. No matter your appearance, we’re all struggling to do the best we can as moms, dads too, because, after all, what wouldn’t we do for our children? Parenting involves a lot of sacrifice and some of these are no-brainers. Giving up the last piece of pie for our children is an easy one. They get more pie, they are happy, end of story. But when we sacrifice our sleep to tend to our children in the middle of the night, who’s benefitting? Certainly not us, as the bags under our eyes reveal, but more importantly, our children aren’t the better for it. No one is getting the sleep they need, so why are we handling it? There are enough moments in our parenting years in which we will make sacrifices for our children. Sleep need not be one of them. Does your family need more sleep? Send me a message to schedule your free 15 minute consultation. Let me help you lighten the load. I know you can handle it, but you shouldn’t have to.
She sleep trained me! 😱 The act of helping your child sleep better has become incredibly controversial. So much so, that moms have told me they kept it a secret from their family in fear of judgement. Wow. Helping your child get the sleep their developing bodies need should NEVER be a source of shame but that of PRIDE! Be bold, be proud and comment below…I SLEEP TRAINED MY CHILD! 💤
This one hits home for me. I spent most of my 20’s and half of my 30’s single, for the most part. I longed for the day I would meet a wonderful man to share my life with and hopefully have children. As happy as I am to have all that now, I long for my former life, not everyday, but the desire to be alone, to not be touched is there often enough. The difference between me and the woman in this story, is that I value sleep more than being alone. Lack of sleep ruins me. I’m a crappy partner and I don’t “mom” well. Sleep has to be the priority and the hours before midnight are crucial to feeling well-rested. So I wait for hubby to have a night out, then I buy my favourite frozen pizza (Dr. Oetker I love/hate you) a nice bottle of red, queue up my favourite chick dramas and I enjoy date night with me, myself and I. I’m in bed by 10pm, content to know I have at least 8hrs of sleep ahead of me. How about you? When do you get your “me” time? Why Mothers Stay Up Late